September 12, 2012

DAY 302 - Core Family Values

Matthew 10:37-39 (NIV) 37 “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.

Ephesians 5:21-22, 31-32 (NRSV) 21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to the Lord 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 31‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ 32This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the church.

The Scriptures give us many family values to guide us in making decisions regarding the relationships in our households. They talk about permanence in marriage, about open communication in marriage and of speaking the truth in love, about the value of discipline. But, is there a core value that could be an even stronger guide for us? Yes, there is. It is the core value proclaimed and practiced by Jesus and applied to the family. It has to do with putting God first. Paul applies this guide for the family when he says be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Mutual subjection is the core value. Mutual subjection is serving one another out of respect for and obedience to Jesus Christ. Mutual subjection is the way we do the life of Christ in our families.

The responsibility of mutual submission was frowned on in Jesus day, and it is now. There is an image about being submissive that we still resist. The responsibility of mutual submission was revolutionary then, and it is now. Even if we are willing to practice mutual submission in our family, many of us are not sure just how to do it. It is so contradictory to the pulse of our feelings and to the pressures of our culture. Mutual submission cannot, should not, and will not be practiced apart from Jesus Christ. We do not understand submission apart from Christ. We do not have the wisdom or the power to practice subjection apart from Him. Jesus rejected the power and prestige that was so popular in His day. He served men and gave them the humility they needed. He served women and gave them the sense of worth that was rightfully theirs. He served children and affirmed their value as children.

Submission flavors all of the other values given to us as Christians. There is a difference in nice love and submissive love. There is a difference between being authoritative and being an authoritarian. Servant authority offers power and authority and responsibility to others. Have you felt the power and healing that mutual submission gives to a family? Living out this value of mutual submission is a life long challenge, and it is accomplished by a strange mixture of hard work and miracles of undeserved grace. The value of mutual submission becomes real by practice, and comes as a gift.

From a sermon preached by Henry Dobbs Pope October 22, 1995

© Rhonda Hinkle Mitchell (Broyles)

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